7 Ways to Support your Kid's Dreams.
Updated: Sep 24, 2021
"There should be mutual love and co-operation between the guardian and the recipient." - Rig Veda
"Before we start, just close your eyes for some seconds and Imagine yourself doing something boring, something you never wanted to do, and you have to do it for your entire life."
Now if you got my point, Let's begin... Here are the 7 ways you can support your Little Angel's Dream.
1. Define boundaries of being Protective, Don't be Over Protective.
To keep your kid safe and healthy probably your first priority as a parent, but there is a fine line between protecting and caging. I can understand the society, the world is not as good as it seems but you have to understand some lessons can be learned only by own. Give them their space they want, just keep an eye on them. Let them explore, let them fall, let them face the pain. They will learn the lesson better in practical world.
2. Teach them about Responsibility, Good & Bad.
Moral education worth more than any thing, trust me on this. How won't answer the curiosity of a young mind but Why does it.
For example, How to stay away from Cigarette and Alcohol ? will not answer the question why you don't want to let them do it. Why smoking Cigarette and Alcohol is harmful will let them understand why they should not do it, what are the effects, drawbacks and disadvantages of it.
In short, Teaching them what is right and wrong is OK, but telling them why the thing is right and why the thing is wrong is more important. You have to explain it with facts and reality checks instead of experiences and theories.
3. Help them building the Self Trust.
A person with self doubts, can never be self confident and one can't be self dependent. As a parent you should help you kid building trust in him/her self. I've seen many kids in my class who lacks self confidence and trust, they often seems confused and disturbed they have hard time in making decisions, learn new things.
They fear taking new steps.
You have to let them make small decisions by their own, don't decide everything for them. Trust in their decisions and their feelings. Remember, any problem can be solved if a person trust himself, his capabilities, abilities and skills, if they they have self trust they'll be more confident about themselves.
4. Tell them imperfections are OK, don't force them to be perfect.
Don't force them to be perfect, because no one is perfect, neither are you. Either physically or mentally everyone is imperfect, that's the beauty of life, that's where life happens. In your trials of improvement, your efforts of making things perfect. You achieve you loose, you fall you rise.
Tell them, imperfections are normal, these are stairs they have to climb to achieve perfection. The quality of person is not in hiding imperfection, its in accepting the imperfection and how you deal with it, how you overcome your imperfections. It will lift of the fear of imperfections, and encourage them to try and try again and again.
5. Stop Providing Unnecessary Facilities.
"A student life is a life of ascetic person" as mentioned in our vedas, but parents often offer their kids unnecessary facilities and useless luxuries sometimes for maintaining social standards, it can be a premium brand cellphone, clothes, watch or a bike.
Adverse effect of this is that, It satisfies all desires of your kid in his early age, desire that could lead him to become self dependent, earn things by own, getting his desires fulfilled. So give them what is necessary not what they demands. Let your kid work hard for Title, awards and trophies, and let him buy his luxuries and personal satisfactions.
Remember "A wise parent gives the child what he NEEDS the most, not what he WANTS the most."
6. Keep an eye on their Friend list and Schedule.
A person is known by his friend circle, a bad influence in early age can ruin the entire growth chart of a kid, it may bring distractions & bad habits which may consume his precious time and abilities.
Keep an eye on friend circle of your kid, how these people are. What new your kid is learning from them, is he recently started acting different (in negative way), keep checks on his schedule, it can be his coaching class, sports club routine etc. Counter and counsel them if you find anything suspicious.
7. Most Important, Don't Force your Dreams on them.
It might be your parent did the same, may be you are similar to them and you are enjoying the life they decided for you. But it doesn't bring the surety that the same thing will repeat again. May be you're an Engineer, A doctor, A Lawyer or A professor. You dream that your kid should follow your footstep. Every parent want a safe and secured future for his kid but helping him to follow his dreams and explore his life according to his abilities and skills is the way. Forcing you desires isn't.
"But isn't it your dream, not his ? Have your ever checked his potential, his interests, his dreams, his desires ? I know as a parent you want a safe future for your kid, you might force him to your desired field, what if he never be happy in his entire life, frustrated, blaming you for his ruined life, are you ready to take that blame. Spoiling a life just because you thought it will good for him ?
Ask yourself, with all the honesty and love for your kid. This is the most important question every parent has to ask himself before deciding the fate of his kid."
You might living you dream life, and let him live his dreams. For god's sake don't force him to live your dreams.